We cultivate love when we allow our most powerful and vulnerable selves to be deeply seen and known and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Brené Brown
A few days ago I came across Brené Brown’s words of love and belonging that resonated deeply with me and I wanted to share them with you.
These are words that need to be taken in, embodied, lived and shared often. They are wise and precise and have redefined the way that I look at and think about love and the practice of loving.
These quotes were taken from her book “Men, Women & Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough.”
Love is not something that we give or get. It is something that we nurture and grow. A connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare. Love is a practice. Practicing love is more critical than professing it.
Belonging is defined as the innate human desire to be a part of something that is larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal we often try to acquire it by fitting in and in seeking approval, both of which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging but often barriers to it.
True belonging only happens when we present our true authentic and imperfect self to the world. Our level of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.